The Lives of Abused and Battered Women is been written to tell of how women have and, are being hurt. There are two sides of everything. It is not to belittle women or men. I do know why we do things but, I do know that if we don’t think that we’re doing anything really wrong we’ll keep it up. We don’t realize the circumstance if we are not told. It is like with a child that does something wrong, we have to tell them that is wrong for them to know it.

We all have our faults. Some of the things can be changed for the good if we truly wanted it to. We all, the men and the women can fight to make the bad things right. We all have done things that we shouldn’t have but, a bad storm can change. There is some good in everyone. It is not my intention to run down anyone but, only to try to open up a door for a change.

We all are good and special people. There are many good men and women out there so; I have to make that very clear. There are men that love and cherish their women. A man is supposed to treat his woman like a queen. The woman should treat her man like a king but, it can’t be lopsided. I have seen men that gave their women their all. I even heard some men, tell women that they were happily married or, that they were not looking. It was a true blessing to see that in a man. They do have a quality that is un-measurable. I'm so sorry if I make anyone feel bad by the words that I’ve written. I only want to open every ones’ eyes and let them see what is going on so that they can get the love, happiness, commitment and the togetherness back. I am most definitely not trying to put women down either because, that would mean that I had to put myself down also. I am only saying that if you are creating chaos and havoc in some ones life, that it it’s not right. It is also not a good feeling. When we decide to do something to someone, we should ask ourselves how we would feel if it was done to us. No one wants to be hurt or humiliated. The biggest of us have done things that weren’t right. We have to stop the pain and get the love back.

My biggest problem was that I was very insecure and had a problem of being overly jealous. I fussed about every thing. I was very self confident. I know that it was a problem for me and the men. We have to own up to our own faults and bad choices and, we have to make amends.

I said in the latter part of this book that the men didn’t love us. We all know that they cared and, we know that it felt good in the beginning. It just hurt so bad that it just made the bad seem to out weigh the good. The women that have been and, are being hurt are good people and the men that did the damage have good in them also. There are women that have done just as much dirt as men. Pain is pain no matter who is dishing it out. It should have never happened.

You are not supposed to hurt the one that you love. You are supposed to treasure a relationship as though it was a pot of gold that you’ve found. I want everyone to know that, if there is a problem that we are supposed to talk about it. We are supposed to talk as well as listen. We should try to solve the problem in a nice and kind way. We should build up and, not knock down. It takes two to make a dream come true. It takes two to keep the love on track or, to keep the fire kindled. We should reminess on the good times. Remember, when you first met, things were so good and you played like children. There was so much love. If it was worth it then, it should still be there. Think of how you only had to look at each other and, you didn’t have to say a word but, you knew what each other were thinking.

I want my life to be better and, I want the same for you too. We could use some pointers’ from the truly good men and women on how to spruce up our love life. Although we have done things that wasn’t right, we can fight to bring the good back to life and never allow it to surface ever again.

You can start by taking those long drives again. You can go to the movies and hold hands; we know that, that works like a charm. You can do those things that are so romantic and, once again feel as though the two of you are in a world all by yourself. I really want all of us to get back to that special place and time. It may take a little time and hard work but, anything worth having is worth working at to get it right. I pray to God that I will be able to touch some ones’ heart and get them to fight to get the love and compassion back. I wish that I was a genie and, that I could twitch my nose and that; everything for you would be better than before.

Forgive me for having to say the harsh things but, we have to be more loving, kind, and considerate to our mates’ needs and feelings. I have done some bad things in my life time and, I pray that God have forgiven me. I can’t or won’t allow myself to fall into that trap again because, I don’t want hurt anyone and, I don’t want anyone to hurt me ever again.