I will start out by saying that my intentions for writing this book result from the many frustrations we all encounter in life. Believe it or not, most of them occur from a lack of a successful and rewarding personal relationship with that special individual.

When we are having a bad day at work and we arrive home to an empty house or apartment and there is no one there who we can confide in other than our dog or cat, it seems to only make matters worse. Our children are there for us but sometimes this doesn't suffice. We need someone for us, whose mere presence is often enough, especially if they are understanding and healthy, emotionally.

The difference sometimes, is to be able to talk things out with another adult and release bad
feelings so that we can continue. The importance is to have someone there to help you lessen your
load, by offering you help at the end of your day. Even if it's to talk to you while they help you clean the dinner table, so that the both of you can relax at the same time with each other. It's the simple things that usually make a noticeable difference in the long run.

Even when close friends and relatives surround us, it doesn't mean that we are not lonely. Sometimes, this is when we are the loneliest of all. It boils down to how we feel about ourselves, emotionally.

When the children are getting to you, it's comforting to know there is another adult there to act as a buffer to absorb the pain and frustration you feel. When you're sick and the other person is there to help you recuperate by doing little things to help lighten your daily workload. A special someone, who is there to help pick up the slack of a busy day. This is what life is all about sometimes.

When day care is preventing you from saving any money and your significant other volunteers to change their work hours to accommodate the family can be a blessing. When they offer to stay with the children while you take a course at a local college to better yourself or when you need some time alone to emotionally sort things out.

This book is for those who need a little help to raise them up and find someone who may possibly meet all the requirements I've just mentioned. This book describes how men and women usually react differently to each other. It describes the little things we can do so we can raise our self-esteem and self-worth. It attempts to point out that even healthy individuals need
maintenance from time to time.

This book was written from interacting with many people and the end results of this interaction. It's filled with loads of common sense for everyone to read and use individually. It's not the answer to everything; it's merely a starting point. As individuals, we must find our own answers and what works for us.

Welcome to the real world. This short and rewarding journey that you're about to embark upon, will hopefully bring you to a more self-actualized life. It's very easy to read the countless volumes of books that have been written about relationships, and then practice what has been written and put it to the test in real life situations. There is a lot of valuable information that can be learned by reading this endless stream of information that's available to us.

Some of these books are one dimensional, and leave you with limited knowledge. Others tell you how to attract that special someone by following certain proven formulas. They fail to give
you a general knowledge and concentrate on the specifics of only one problem. In order to be successful in any relationships, friendships and in every day life with people, we have to start from the beginning. The grass roots as some would tell us.

I will attempt to guide you from the start with some basics that if followed, will show you
what to do when you find that unique person to share your life with. If you are really serious
about finding that special person, there are some basic fundamentals that should be followed and
learned. Some of the individual chapter titles provide you with a clue to its content but you should read the entire book as I mentioned before, and hi-light the important parts for your future reference. Contrary to what some other authors preach it all starts with you. You control your own destiny. You make the difference and you are the one who will benefit by taking control of your life.

Some parts of this book contain humor which is essential and because life is too short to pout
all the time. Another saying, "we attract those who are similar or those we feel comfortable with, "and various other phrases, are often true. We usually attract those who are similar to us and share our own misfortunes. The few who are really good for us we usually are unable to recognize. We fail to connect because we as individuals fall short due to our own lack of self-worth and self-esteem.