Excerpt

Over the years, there have been literally thousands of books written on the subject of sex. After all, sex is a natural occurrence in our everyday lives. Sex is in our blood, and it is part of our culture. Because we have this primal urge to procreate, sex is literally what we live for.

Sex sells everything from cosmetics to cars, and everything in between. It is on our television sets and in the books and magazines that we read everyday. Because sex is all around us, and in our face 24/7, we really cannot get away from sex even if we wanted to.

As we grow up, our parents teach us how to wipe our asses, how to tie our shoes, how to dress ourselves, and how to speak when spoken too. In addition, they tell us not to wear dirty underwear in case we are in a car accident and have to go to the hospital, where they will undoubtedly cut our pants off, revealing our dirty underwear:) Oh my.

Along the way, we learn how to ride a bike from our parents, learn how to play sports from our coaches, learn how to interact with other children from our teachers, and if you are lucky enough, you will learn how to lie, cheat, steal, and curse from your friends.

While in school, the teachers will teach us how to read, write, understand history, and perform the basic tasks associated with arithmetic. In addition, we are tested, tested, and tested again to make sure we understand what we are learning. In certain cases, some of our teachers will try to teach us how to have sex, with them of course, but that is for another book.

As kids growing up, we are sponges and absorb all this information from our various senses such as seeing, hearing, tasting, touching, and smelling. When exposed to others with different belief systems, we absorb some of those characteristics as well. Some of those people we come in to contact with, will have a negative effect on our lives, while still many others will have a positive effect on our lives.

What we allow in, good or bad will ultimate shape what type of person we become as an adult, as well as what kind of lovers we become. But along this path of learning that we are undertaking, and the socializing that we are involved with, no one has taken the time to teach us how to properly make love to a male or female, as the case may be. This is why I wrote the book.

Since there is no one around to help us, to show us, to teach us, we are flying blind the first time we find ourselves alone with someone of the opposite sex, or even of the same sex for that matter. Because of this, we are shoved head first into the deep end of the love making pool, where you either learn how to swim quickly, or sink to the bottom fast.

So with our mouths dry, and our hearts beating faster, until we are ready to have a fucking heart attack, some of us learn how to doggie paddle our way through the first time. While still many others, even after years of practice, never learn how to swim properly at all. Therefore, we are frightened each time the opportunity for intimacy rears its ugly head. Moreover, that stage fright follows us in other aspects of our lives as well, like a bad omen.

Because of certain factors in our lives, like religion, we do not talk about sex with anyone. It seems that in certain holier-than-thou eyes sex is sinful. Can you imagine that, these people consider sex, which is the basis of our very existence, to be a sin? How hypocritical is this.

They all practice it, as evidenced by them having kids, but it is a sin to talk about. Go figure. Lets move quickly past the religious aspect of sex, because religious people are hypocritical when it comes to sex, and I might get sick to my stomach talking about them.

So what if we try talking to our parents about sex. Yeah right, forget about that. The minute you mention sex to them, they get all tongue tied and clam-up. Parents would rather talk to you about doing drugs than talk to you about having sex. Sex is something so off limits for parents to talk about with their kids, because first, they do not know how to approach the subject, and second, they are in a catch-22 scenario.

The catch-22 scenario that they are in is this. If your parents talk to you about having sex, it may come off sounding as if they are giving you the permission to proceed to have sex, and that is the last thing your parents want to happen to you. Again, it is hypocritical because they probably had sex as teenagers themselves, with more than one partner I might add.

Now they are trying to prevent you from getting any because of the misguided value systems pushed on them by their religious believes and/or the social stigmas associated with having sex in general. Oh how I curse those puritanical viewpoints:)

Anyway, did you know that it is legal to get married in the State of New Hampshire at the tender juicy age of 14 for a male, and 13 for a girl in special cases? In Mississippi, it is 17 for a male, and 15 for a girl, but age is not a factor with parental consent. Theoretically, someone can marry under 13!

Some people in this country call that child abuse, because they do not believe a person becomes mature enough to make that choice until they are at least 16 years old. And in other States, it is 18 years old. Still many others think, If they are old enough to sit at the adult table, they are old enough to eat!