Excerpt

Hello from Jerry and Susie. We are a married couple, living in rural America, who has taken our sexually adventurous nature into the realm of the Swinging Lifestyle. This is our third book, our second one covering our adventures as Swingers. All three books are based on our personal diaries. We have published our books to share our experiences, both good and bad, in hopes of preparing others who have an interest in swinging, as well as entertaining with some of our naughty adventures. We have found the Lifestyle to be like many other subgroups of society: it isnt suitable for everyone, it has both positive and negative aspects, and there are many different types of people who participate for many different reasons. Personally, we have had many memorable and sexually erotic experiences in the Lifestyle that we have recalled many times between us, heightening our sex drives. That was our motivation for capturing our experiences in our private diaries in the first place; we wanted to capture every detail before we forgot them. We have also had a number of experiences that were learning lessons for us, those that we grew from and that we subsequently worked to avoid repeating.

In this book, we provide a detailed description of each swinging encounter, followed by our thoughts, emotions, and personal lessons learned. We have included some of our most memorable encounters, those that opened up new vistas for us, and those that had valuable lessons for us. After several years as Swingers, we have many experiences to share. We plan to be open, honest and explicit throughout the book as we share our personal adventures along with our accompanying thoughts and lessons we learned.

As we embarked on our second year in the swinging lifestyle, Susie and I were in a streak of hot encounters. We were finally hitting our stride as swingers. It had taken most of our first year to learn what worked well for us and what didnt work at all. The first year was also filled with many emotional adjustments for each of us. One of the things we had learned about ourselves was that we needed to establish a certain comfort level with others before entering into an intimate encounter with them. Sometimes it took several meetings before we felt the necessary comfort, other times we felt it within a half hour of our first meeting, but the key was we now both knew when we were ready to play.

We also knew which lifestyle situations were best for us, and which ones we needed to avoid. For example, we had learned that we did not fit well in the house party situation, unless we already knew either the host/hostess or several other couples in attendance. Each time we attended a house party without knowing anyone, we had a bad experience. In many of those situations, we ended up leaving early. Many house parties were set up as free-for-all orgies, where everyone was expected to do anyone and everyone there. That is just not our style. Although that type of wild and free party was sexually erotic to fantasize about, the reality turned out to be our worst swinging experiences.

We also found that our success rate at meeting other couples for dinner dates was very low. Setting blind dates with couples we had contacted online was a very time-consuming process with a high failure rate. For many of our dates, after meeting them for drinks or dinner, we would never see them again. We learned that our best swinging venue was the Swing Club, where we could chat and socialize with many people through the evening. Our chance of finding another couple who we connected well with was much better. If we didnt jump in bed with them the first night, we might the next time we saw them there.

What does it take to become Swingers?

For a couple to be successful and enjoy themselves in the Lifestyle, the key is their own relationship. They must have a very secure, trusting and sharing relationship between them. The security, trust and sharing must be equal in both directions. If either of the couple keeps secrets, hides their true feelings or chooses not to share everything openly, the couple is destined for failure in the Lifestyle. Swinging imposes the ultimate test on a relationship, as a couple engages in the most intimate physical contact with others.

Many of those we have met in the Lifestyle dont have the proper relationship for swinging. Swinging places an ongoing strain on them, sometimes only on one of the couple, but often on both, in one way or another. Susie and I have such trust in our love for each other, that we have the security of knowing that no other person can ever come between us. We have a clear separation between our physical lust and our emotional love.