Section 1
Making Love or Just Having Sex
There are many people who think that Making Love is having sex and having sex is Making Love. Have you ever heard the phrases “Lets Make Love,” “Make Love to me baby,” “We’re going to Make Love all night?” Have you ever heard a man say “I want to Make Love to you,” or “Baby I had sex with the other women, but I Made Love to you?”
Other than putting a little more or less emotional care, attention and affection in performing sex. What can a man do significantly different in bed with one woman that can be categorized as Making Love and perceived to be just having sex with another? With each woman he’s still just having sex. And in each situation the man and woman both obtain some degree of physical and/or emotional gratification. Otherwise what’s the motivation to have sex?
Are you more likely to participate in having sex if you know for a fact you’re not going to get anything out of it? I don’t think so. The fact remains, other than for reproduction purposes, sex is basically to have intercourse for self-pleasure (gratification) and Making Love is selfless. Sex can be selfish in a sense, because of the goal of self-gratification and separation there after with little to no physical contact until the next act of sex.
Making Love consists of the positive things you say and do from within your heart as a routine in effort to please not yourself, but your partner without the goal of self-gratification.
Couples/people have sex whether they’re in a relationship or not, in love or not in love, in the mood or not in the mood, like it or don’t like it. Is there an art to this thing called sex? Yes, the art of performing, experience and knowing what to do and say to make each other feel good physically and emotionally.
However, there isn’t an art to Making Love in respect of it being in the form of benevolence, kind words and respect, because those are things that flow genuinely and naturally from within your heart before and beyond Sex.
Making Love is not motivated by looks or self-gratification and doesn’t require a degree of skill or experience in order for one to become pleased or satisfied.
Sex is sex and Making Love is Making Love.
A couple can be on the best of terms with each other, have all the sweaty and passionate sex they can physically have and yet they’re still not Making Love.
One might say or think, “oh so you’re saying to me, when we’re having sex we’re not Making Love?” In a sense the answer is yes, because when you’re having sex you’re only temporarily bonding physically and emotionally while spontaneously thriving to obtain physical and sexual gratification.
It’s as if you’re bonding in order to partake of your favorite desert or treat to satisfy your urge or crave. However, it’s unlike partaking of a favorite desert or treat, when a bond has been created through routine acts of one’s heart being in action in effort to please his partner, because when one’s heart is in action, his deeds become more like gifts, which causes the relationship to flourish, and the love and bond created through those gifts of non-reciprocating acts will continue to exist upon having sex, which then becomes “The Bonus Act Of Making Real Love.” (sex)
There is no durable foundation when a relationship is based upon good sex alone, because sex is only about 10% of your relationship. If you’re in a committed love-care relationship, you need a solid foundation if you want it to last, because the foundation is what determines the quality and durability of your relationship.
Don’t be confused, in thinking that a good orgasm means you have just made good love. It simply means you just had good sex by means of being stimulated physically and emotionally enough for you to achieve an orgasm.
Making Love without expecting anything in return by means of benevolence, kind words and deeds is what adds validity to sex and makes it more meaningful, which in turn adds to the longevity of your relationship, because sex alone is not adequate enough to sustain a good long-term relationship.
Open your eyes, ears and mind so that you may become aware of whether or not you’re really and truly Making Love to each other by acknowledging what you’re doing and saying to each other the 90% of time you’re not in bed. During the 90% of time you’re not in bed is when you should be Making Love, which will create a more meaningful Bonus Act of Making Real Love (sex-intercourse) the 10% of the time you have sex…

The Three Elements are Pleasant Words, __________, and __________





Pleasant Words – Pleasant Words are nice words, good words you speak to each other in pleasant tones, which often creates a bond of love, peace, happiness, laughter and smiles.
Pleasant Words are kind, gentle, sweet, tactful, courteous, appreciative, complimentary, motivating, encouraging, consoling, gentle, polite and flattering.
Pleasant Words never attack one’s self esteem, discourage, insult, be little or speak disrespectfully. Neither are they associated with hateful loud tones or profanity. But, rather they make you feel special, build your self-esteem, confidence, respect..

Section 6
This section identifies some of the primary common reasons as to why women and men both tend to tend to cheat. The benefit of this section is the insight it gives concerning cheating, which will enable couples to examine their own relationship to see what they might need to do, if anything, to make their relationship stronger and limit the potentials of cheating occurring in their relationship.
There Are Three Types Of Cheating Men And Women

1.) Inevitable - cheating men and women.
2.) Circumstantial - cheating men and women.
3.) Driven - cheating men and women.