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Life starts with a cry and when life ends there is also crying. We live to die, and we die to live, spiritually speaking. Death is inevitable to us all. Death does not discriminate. Death takes the rich, the poor, the old and the young. Death is a part of our life cycle.
If it wasn’t for death, where would the hundreds of generations live? Can you imagine the chaos and mayhem of human over crowdedness? It would become an uncontrollable riot.
Death is a necessary but painful cycle that we all must learn to accept and go through with faith and knowledge of its purpose. Grief requires a healing process; however, grief does not affect everyone in the same way.
You have to express your grief in your own personal way whether it be by crying, lying down, walking, talking, being with others, etc. Just so you handled grief in a manner in that consoles you! Follow your mind, not anyone else’s.
Don’t try to mourn like anyone else because everyone copes with grief in his or her own unique way. Trying to grieve in any way other than what is natural for you will only prolong your time of grief.
Death requires us all to make adjustments to our life styles that may or may not be difficult but necessary. Accepting and making the necessary adjustments accordingly are essential.
However, there are no particular adjustments required. Each person’s situation tends to be unique. One particular situation may require adjusting to living alone, where as another situation may require accepting an additional person or persons into one’s home or become a part of one’s life.
Regardless of what your situation may be, you must rely on faith, peace, guidance and strength from almighty God. And don’t forget knowledge. Knowledge of God’s perfect plan for life and death, which is to be born of the flesh, die and live eternally in the spirit. John 5:21-29
Grief is neither a friend or enemy. Grief is an emotional cycle that many of us find painful and difficult to overcome. Grief is a cycle that we all encounter when we become a survivor of death. By the time you complete the reading of this book, you will have the ability to cope with death and grief with knowledge, faith and forbearance.
It’s hard to accept losing a loved one, especially through tragedy. The good news is that there is victory over sorrow even after tragedy. Understanding and relating everything surrounding death to God’s perfect plan is vital to your healing process.
When receiving such revelation, your broken heart will begin to heal. Learning how to accept death from a spiritual perspective is vital to your healing process. Sorrow usually affects most people in phases, which may differ from person to person. There are three common phases that seem to plague the majority of survivors. Those three phases are denial, anger and depression.
The Phase of Denial
Through this phase, people tend not to accept the fact that their loved one is no longer living. It also causes people to refuse to accept the fact that he or she is no longer with them and will never be with them again. The phase of denial causes people to hold on to that loved one and not let go.
Denial hinders you from moving on. In order to overcome denial, you must first acknowledge the fact that the death of your loved one is a reality. Once you accept that reality, you must then surrender the hold you have on that loved one to God, in “whom all our strength abides.”
When you surrender your hold on a pasted away loved one and allow God’s perfect will to flow without resisting, then you will begin to overcome the phase of denial.
The Phase of Anger
There are times when survivors will feel the emotion of anger. That anger may be towards others, yourself or maybe even at God. Sometimes you become angry with others because you may feel that they are bad in nature and continue to live, but your loved one is good nature and died. It seems unfair, and that unfair feeling sometimes makes you angry.
In some cases you may wonder why not this person or that person, even yourself. You may ask “why him or her Lord?” In some cases you become angry with yourselves. This sometimes begins by feeling guilty.
In many cases, your guilt starts by quoting the “I should have” routine. I should’ve done this, or I should’ve done that. You should never blame yourself unless you willfully caused the death. You might even have the audacity to allow yourself to become angry with God by blaming him for the death of our loved one.
You must understand that God doesn’t kill. According to Rom 5:12 through one man’s sin, death passes to all men; it’s a written destiny. As time progresses, you will learn further down the line that typically, when it is time for an individual to meet the lord, there is really nothing that anyone can do or could have done to prevent or delay the death from coming to pass.
It is written in Ps 90:8-10,12 that all of our days are numbered. Therefore, when your number is called and it is time for you to go. So shall it be. Don’t blame yourself, don’t blame others and don’t blame God.
Surrender all aspects of anger to God, despite the manner in which your loved one may have died. Understand that God allowed his or her death for reasons beyond your comprehension. Surrendering anger and accepting God’s will for allowing your loved one to enter the gates of heaven is a major step towards overcoming the phase of anger.
The phase of depression
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